The Flip

People help me flush out an idea.

Recently, I was talking about "The Flip" where a guy would say one thing and the woman would flip it and take the negative way.
Now, I have had this rattling around in my head for a while. Then last night it hit me it all has to do with self image. Let me try and explain this.

"The Flip" is a lady replying how they FEEL, not what was HEARD (reread that until you understand it) .

We have to remember that women are emotional creatures.


So now "The Flip" makes a lot of sense it's an emotional response.

So you are asking how does this tie into self image, well that's easy.

Example time. Say for example some guy shot Hitler and was praised a Hero. Internally he could not accept the praise because he felt that he was a murderer for taking a life.
He could not see how many lives he saved, he could only focus on how bad he was because he killed. Therefore in his head he would turn the praise into the people making fun of him.

I guess what I am trying to say is because she has a bad self image (or too much negative self talk) she cannot accept the comment in the positive light. She has to break it down to a level that she feels is worthy of her belief system.

To put it in a guys perspective, it's just like seeing a mess of hot chicks and telling yourself they are out of your league.


Statement: You look Nice Today......

Reply: You think I'm FAT.



She replied that way because she was FEELING fat which dictated her reply.

I think we could write a book on this simple communication breakdown.
Women reply with their feelings and us guys try to argue our point on what was meant.

The best thing to do is just to reply back to them what they just said (I'm sorry that you are feeling fat today but you really look good in that shirt).

Yes no way off?

I found this post which gave me hope that all women are not insane.
http://herestohappywomen.blogspot.com/2006_04_01_archive.html
scroll down to the April 21st 2006 entry titled 'Do these pants make me look fat?".

Mr. WAM